I struggled with understanding confidence for years, let alone having it.
It took me many years of awkward interactions and self-doubt to eventually sprout a pair of…wings.
I learned that confidence is unearthed.
We all have it when we’re relaxed.
But there are certain things we can do to hack our bodies and minds to trigger this feeling of confidence.
Here’s what I mean…
Walk and sit with a fraction more pride in your posture.
Studies show that posture can literally affect our physical chemistry and sense of self.
Commit to rising above the masses.
The masses are average for a reason.
And they’re mostly miserable.
Set a high target and then take steps to literally become the kind of person you need to be to live that goal.
Your goals are for the here and now, not tomorrow.
Send a friend a funny audio message.
Man, I can’t tell you how much my silly antics with audio lifts me up.
I’m just being goofy, doing impressions and silly voices.
But this has become my go-to mood lifter.
Take five shallow nose breaths.
Do it now. Watch how your mood lifts in this short window.
Your mind is stilling; your vagus nerve activates, and optimism lifts.
It’s easy to believe we need to control our lives through incessant analysing.
Chill for a moment.
When we cloud or minds with all of this clever thinking, we block inner creative flow.
Confidence appears when we’re relaxed in mind and body.
Any kind of movement is better than stewing and working ourselves into a frustrated stupor.
Go for a walk, run or paint a picture.
Happy humans were made to move.
Mindfulness is all the rage, but have you heard of sitting in silence and getting bodyful?
Connect with all your physical senses through observation.
Watch your frustrations dissipate as your body relaxes.
This is an exercise about being there for you and connecting with you. It’s about feeling your confidence literally rising up.
Try it now. You don’t need to look for that confidence.
It’s already there.
Decide to stop being a whiny little wimp.
We make it too easy for ourselves to slip into immature habits that diminish us.
Just refuse to be weak.
There’s tremendous strength in merely making this decision.
Creating is the literal expression of a confident soul. So create.
This includes reaching out to say hi.
It includes making music and writing. It means knocking off an item on your to dos.
Start small if you need to, and see how you feel when you choose to create over react.
Dancing, especially if it’s by yourself, might seem goofy. But it’s one of the most empowering things you can do.
Life is tough and often mundane. The easy route is to be Mr Serious.
Far more courage is required to loosen your hips and groove.
This will send ripples of energy through every vein.
Journal on what’s working.
Sometimes confidence is diminished because we spend so much time focusing on the shit that sucks in our lives.
That’s normal. But you need to buck that trend.
Journaling is a great way into changing perception.
List out what’s good right now.
I get it. It feels empowering to shift the blame for your perceived losses onto others.
And in some cases, yes, maybe others did play a role.
But who cares?
You ultimately lose when you pitch yourself as a poor widdle victim.
Snap out of it and take responsibility.
Ditch the stained sweatpants, please.
Use them where appropriate, but for goodness sake, have some pride in your appearance.
If you look like shit, what does that say about what you think about yourself?
Draw a line in the sand.
Journal out how you will shed your old skin, take on powerful new habits, and set a course for an exciting goal that requires nothing but transformation in you.
Merely planning this will connect you to your true, confident self.
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Stop being a whiny little wimp, dress up and dance. 💃
I can attest it works! 😅
This is a thing of beauty. Thank you