4 strange secrets that help me live an enjoyable life with kick-ass vibes

Life's a bitch, and then you die.

...Say those who fell for the lie that life's 'supposed' to be miserable.

Many of us walk around with a stick up our butts because we're conditioned to think like victims of our own circumstances.

That it's all so tough, and we just need to bear it.

Take a hike, misery guts.

Life isn't always supposed to feel great. Big whoop. Welcome to humanity.

The following ideas help me enjoy myself when the masses suck eggs:

1. Those who seem perpetually unlucky are not 'unlucky.'

They have poor thought management skills.

Deep down, these people invite bad luck because they operate on a life philosophy that says they are unlucky. So they go out into the world looking to confirm their false beliefs.

And, by golly, will they find them.

The alternative?

I look for evidence to prove the opposite - that I am, in fact, supremely lucky.

Write out a long list weekly of how you're lucky if that helps (it will).

You will be lucky to a surprisingly lopsided degree.

Try it.

2. If something feels like an obligation, it's time to pause and reflect.

Schools, parents and various authorities instilled in us the idea that the things worth doing rarely feel fun.

They are things we 'should' do, such as tidying our rooms or filling in our tax returns.

The problem with obligatory work is that the mere 'shouldness' in the activity diminishes you and pollutes the task.

We're not there for the work itself, but rather the whip that strikes us from behind.

If something feels like an obligation, I do this:

a) I stop it immediately and replace it with something I am excited about doing. Or I take a few days' break.

Or...

b) I rethink the task so it's framed as something I do for no reason other than it gently interests me. Every task becomes more inviting that way. No obligations, only curiosity.

And no pressure means better quality work.

3. Experiments curtail catastrophes.

I used to avoid making moves because the choice seemed daunting.

Moving abroad. Writing that book. Starting a YouTube channel.

And yet, all have experimental versions that are smaller and more palatable.

Visit for two weeks. Write a test article. Record and share one video.

Suddenly, 90% more stuff is within reach.

Before diving right in, test.

Get a feel for something with lower stakes.

Risks are vital, but make them small and deliciously bite-size.

4. People respond to the IDEA they have of me, not ME.

The biggest impediment to joy is the fear of others disagreeing with us.

We just hate the feeling of being disliked or judged. Unless we're a pure-bred psychopath.

And so we avoid things. We don't fully invest for fear of rejection or 'abandonment.'

But then I understood that people react to the thoughts they hold of me, much of which is interpretation, i.e. plain wrong.

In this way, we're all living in our own version of reality thanks to how our thoughts work.

When I saw this, I stopped taking things so personally. I found empathy for others in the mere fact that they were living in the illusion of their thoughts.

Very little phases me these days because I now realise there is no real 'self' to protect.

Others (including myself) are conjuring up hundreds and thousands of variations of me and who I could be.

They miss every time.

Never actually me.

No one knows me, just as no one knows you.

Very often, I don't even know myself, so how can anyone else?

I am an amorphous, spiritual and deeply complex (and magnificently simple) being.

There's nothing to worry about.

Nothing to protect.

So when someone inevitably responds to me in what seems an irrational way, they are living in an illusion.

Nothing to worry about.

I'm free.

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Alex