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Your insights are phenomenal. My father taught me a lot of these growing up. I’m gonna give him a call. So thanks for the reminders and inspiration.

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Thanks Allison!

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I love your careful observation of what makes one click - the ability to make others feel intelligent, stay calm under pressure, or possess hidden talents. The non-status-quo thinker is one of my favourites.

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Happy to hear it!

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Loved this one! The way they show their secret talents and remain so calm in stressful situations is always fascinating:)

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agreed - thanks!

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Fascinating, people who make you feel smart are always appealing, as are people who lead fascinating lives, or write about them.

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exactly Therese

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Alex, this was a refreshing read! I love how you break down the essence of fascinating people into these subtle yet powerful habits. The part about selective silence really stood out to me—it’s such an underrated skill. It reminds me of how some of the most memorable conversations I’ve had were with people who were comfortable with pauses, almost like they gave the moment room to breathe.

I’m also intrigued by the idea of assuming intelligence in others. It’s amazing how people light up when they feel seen and respected. Have you found any particular challenges in consistently practicing this habit? Sometimes, especially in fast-paced work environments, it can feel like the pressure to “explain everything” kicks in automatically.

I’d love to hear more about how you’ve personally developed that uncommon calm under pressure—it sounds like a superpower worth cultivating.

Keep these insights coming! 🙌

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Thank you Clifford! Much of this cultivation of calm comes with both understanding of how thoughts work, and practice!

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Amazing as always ❤️

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Thanks Paolo!

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