Once again you come through with some very useful and important information.
I look forward to your emails. There is always a lot of information that helps me refocus my thinking. I appreciate you and your sharing what you've learned. You never disappoint, Alex.
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What about acknowledging emotions and not feeling shame around feeling them. What about rape or abuse victims? Should they forgive understand and see the perspective of their perpetrators? I think in this case it’s healthy to feel a grudge as knowing your precious self does not deserve this treatment by another human being. I can move on but forgiving them would undermine their treatment. We can’t just change our thoughts and think of it a different way and nor should we as abuse is abuse.
Acknowledging your emotions is part of forgiveness. You don’t need to excuse abuse to forgive. Forgiveness is a process of letting go of the anger that ends up limiting you most of all.
I don’t want to have to forgive the other person if it doesn’t resonate to. At the moment I would feel like it would be abusive if I forgave the other person as it would feel like silencing or just putting a bandaid on. The body’s natural response to the situation is anger, so I’m going to let it run its course for as long as it needs to, and as long as I’m not hurting anyone. I can only let it go when I feel I have really worked feeling of anger healthily, and then organically let it go when the time is right. Forgiving them would feel like a disservice to myself as I value myself more than having to forgive another person for their actions. I see it as a disempowering and bypassing rather than anything I would benefit from in this situation. Other situations different story. I will pray for them though and ask for God to send them whatever they need and give it to him to sort out. I will also ask God to assist me with any feelings of shame, guilt or unworthiness. I will feed love to these emotions to have them seen and heard and acknowledged. Thank you for your answer and I know it comes from a place of love and care. I’m just letting you know my thoughts that sometimes forgiveness is conditional and not always needed to heal. All the best!
Once again you come through with some very useful and important information.
I look forward to your emails. There is always a lot of information that helps me refocus my thinking. I appreciate you and your sharing what you've learned. You never disappoint, Alex.
Thank you sir! Glad it helped.
Hey Alex, This is a fantastic piece! I really appreciate you sharing these insights on letting go of the need for external approval.
Thanks Ayesha, keep an eye out for the ebook, which goes into more depth on how.
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You got it Deano! Thank you
Thanks Alex
Oh wow, I wanted to restack pretty much every sentence of this post! Thanks for expressing this advice so succinctly and beautifully!
What about acknowledging emotions and not feeling shame around feeling them. What about rape or abuse victims? Should they forgive understand and see the perspective of their perpetrators? I think in this case it’s healthy to feel a grudge as knowing your precious self does not deserve this treatment by another human being. I can move on but forgiving them would undermine their treatment. We can’t just change our thoughts and think of it a different way and nor should we as abuse is abuse.
Acknowledging your emotions is part of forgiveness. You don’t need to excuse abuse to forgive. Forgiveness is a process of letting go of the anger that ends up limiting you most of all.
I don’t want to have to forgive the other person if it doesn’t resonate to. At the moment I would feel like it would be abusive if I forgave the other person as it would feel like silencing or just putting a bandaid on. The body’s natural response to the situation is anger, so I’m going to let it run its course for as long as it needs to, and as long as I’m not hurting anyone. I can only let it go when I feel I have really worked feeling of anger healthily, and then organically let it go when the time is right. Forgiving them would feel like a disservice to myself as I value myself more than having to forgive another person for their actions. I see it as a disempowering and bypassing rather than anything I would benefit from in this situation. Other situations different story. I will pray for them though and ask for God to send them whatever they need and give it to him to sort out. I will also ask God to assist me with any feelings of shame, guilt or unworthiness. I will feed love to these emotions to have them seen and heard and acknowledged. Thank you for your answer and I know it comes from a place of love and care. I’m just letting you know my thoughts that sometimes forgiveness is conditional and not always needed to heal. All the best!
No worries. You're welcome!