Five habits of people who just don’t seem to care what others think
Isn’t it the ultimate dream to be unaffected by other people’s thoughts, opinions and judgements?
How would your life be different if you were genuinely unaffected by others’ views?
Imagine what this would do for your stress, confidence and your creativity.
Here are some habits of people who seem to have the ‘don’t give an F’ gene:
They’re not wrapped up in themselves.
People who care deeply about the thoughts and opinions of other people have one very good reason behind why they do this: they suspect something is ‘wrong’ with them.
If they didn’t think anything was wrong with them, why would they buy into the judgements of total strangers?
Why would someone who knows nothing about you determine your emotional experience in any way? Really think about that.
You’re scared because you can’t bear the idea that someone would confirm the thing you dislike about yourself.
But people who don’t care know this: there is nothing wrong with them.
‘Wrong’ is never going to be anything more than a subjective human judgement — and those are always lies. We’re all whole, enough, full.
There’s no second-guessing. You never need to take anything personally if you’re not wrapped up in yourself.
They don’t think about ‘self-esteem.’
At some point in their lives, unnecessarily fearful people took the concept of self-esteem too seriously.
Now they allow an illusion to dictate their confidence.
Why is that?
Because if we believe the idea that other people have the power to diminish our illusory ‘self-esteem,’ we become uptight. We have something to lose, and other people threaten who we are.
There is no self-esteem drain. We only think we’re not confident.
In truth, we are flesh and bones with thoughts about who we think we are.
We’re not bones.
We’re the energy that animates it all — and this connects us all.
When we see that there’s nothing tangible to protect — that we’re energy — we do not need to be bothered about what Nancy said about us on Twitter.
They want to make others happy.
Especially given that there’s no longer any need to obsess about ourselves, chill people are focused, by default, on bringing joy to other people.
If you get the idea that we’re all connected, then it makes sense that we’d become enlivened by making others happy.
When we direct our attention away from our own made-up and painful insecurities, we suck all the power out of what was previously fuelling our suffering.
There’s no longer any need to self-obsess.
You’re fine.
You don’t need fixing.
You will be energised by energising others — especially those around you who matter the most to you.
They think from the inside out.
There are always two ways to look at life.
You can either see what’s happening around you through the ‘I can’t believe this is happening to me’ lens, or you can see it through the ‘I’m creating it all, and I can choose how I want to feel’ lens.
People seemingly immune from other people’s criticisms are operating via the second lens.
They understand that their experience is internally-generated. They are not at the mercy of other people and situations.
Seeing things this way brings unparalleled levels of security to their experience.
They know that their life is a direct reflection of the thoughts in their own mind. So they don’t wait for people to be kind to them to enjoy themselves.
They found a way to enjoy themselves regardless.
They are focused on making cool shit.
With all this free time and mental space created by caring less about yourself and what others think of them, guess what happens?
You can’t help but feel good.
You can’t help but sense this beautiful drive running through you that was there all along.
A drive that makes you want to spread joy create things and reap the rewards of living.
Life becomes a game of creation.
You are innately driven to connect with people, to see others thrive, and work on cool projects that speak to your soul.
If you want this experience, you can have it right now.
Why are you reading this picking your nose right now? You’re here.
You are already successful, so let that be the energy you approach life with so you can create more success.
Focus on creating with such a sense of abundance, force, and relentless energy, and you won’t have time to care about what others think of you.
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