Most people create their unhappiness. Here are 8 secret habits of consistently upbeat people

Upbeatness, I’ve learned, is less about personality type and more about choice.

It’s a skill.

It’s not deluded. It’s brilliance…because when I decide to be upbeat, strange opportunities appear.

No human is upbeat all the time. But we can emulate the more upbeat among us to enjoy the benefits.

Here’s what they do:

1. They have forgiven the people who wronged them.

Holding on to grudges and resentments is never empowering.

It only weakens you. Upbeat people are healthier and happier because they found a way to forgive.

2. They forgave themselves.

Present shame reflects a lack of self-forgiveness.

This is stunting and blocks real confidence. What haven’t you forgiven yourself about yet? Find it, and use your creativity to see why you absolutely can forgive yourself for that.

This will instantly rewire your mind.

3. Choose to enjoy yourself.

This really is on offer, and most people don’t see it.

They see something they dislike, feel the feeling of this disagreement, and assume life is supposed to feel crap most of the time. Wrong.

You can change your reality by actively focusing on having fun.

4. Refuse to be a little b*tch.

Don’t fall for the little voice that tempts you into cowering to life’s challenges.

Rise up, puff out your chest, and refuse to be one of the complainers.

Adopting this view alone will transmogrify your biochemistry.

5. Become skilled at responding to when you feel bad.

Happy people are expert self-aware noticers.

If they feel low, they understand it’s a sign they’re overthinking, and know it’s time to be more present.

To see things for what they are, which is almost always an improved, more lucid experience.

6. Live a less stimulated life.

Look around you. Most people are jacked up on screens, vapes, caffeine, games, social media and other modern turd.

I get it. Some of these aren’t easy to quit outright. However, try to reduce your intake significantly.

Instead of scrolling TikTok before bed, read a damn paper book. People don’t get it, but our lack of energy is mainly related to stimulants and dopamine burnout.

Experience a slower life, and you’ll have more energy to enjoy the simple things.

7. Be weird.

Realise that most people take life far too seriously.

Many are miserable because they conform and don’t want to appear strange.

The general approach by many is to see themselves as victims. And so that’s the default many fall into, because most people emulate the next person (like sheep). But does this need to be you?

Being upbeat requires a healthy but courageous willingness to be weird.

8. Spend more time outside.

Let’s be real. Although technology has advanced significantly in recent years, our fundamental needs remain unchanged.

We evolved to spend a lot of time outside, in nature and with our skin in the sun. Studies show how important this is. This is why I walk for at least an hour outside daily.

Nature lifts mood.

If you want my guided help in rewiring your mind to be more confident and give fewer f*cks about what others think, you’ll want my course: Let Go of the S#it that Weakens You.

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