Ten things you must do if you want to rediscover who you really are:

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Untethered Mind, Friday Edition, 5-min read.

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So many of us are just coasting.

We live for others. We sacrifice who we are to fit in and appease our beliefs about how life is ‘supposed’ to be.

But a new life of energy and enjoyment awaits when we truly know ourselves.

Here are ways to rediscover your true self so that you can live with integrity:

Find that thing you could obsess over.

Honour your obsessions, weird or otherwise.

What could you talk about for hours? What kinds of books sit on your bookshelf?

Go deeper. We can deny ourselves by closing ourselves off from our interests.

Don’t allow your judgemental thinking to get in the way of pursuing what you want. Often, we hold back because we think we’ll look silly. You can’t buy into this.

Don’t die with regrets because you never truly came to life doing what energises the shit out of you.

Challenge limiting beliefs.

We all entertain beliefs that aren’t true, often without realising it.

When we hold a belief to be true, such as: ‘I am not a very creative person.’

We will find ways to confirm and manifest the truth of that belief in the world. False beliefs sabotage you.

Challenge these thought patterns and you will see there are other ways of seeing things.

You will catch a glimpse of who you really are behind these beliefs, and you can detach entirely. That’s how to be free.

Experiment like a nutty professor.

You may not know what you’re good at or what you’re best suited to.

Try a range of different things. This is especially important when you’re young, but there’s no age at which experimentation should cease.

Even if you think you have it all figured out, you need to welcome change and trying new things.

One of the best ways to experiment is to create and publish many different types of content, from articles to videos and podcasts.

Be ruthlessly biased to action.

I’m not saying run around like a headless parakeet for the sake of being busy.

But far too often, we stall because we’re confused or stuck or feel we need some clever plan to proceed.

Screw all that. Action into the unknown will yield all the information you need.

Action cures sadness, loneliness and a lack of motivation.

Regularly do random things you wouldn’t normally do.

The gurus rant and rave about the power of routine.

Great to a point. Mix things up a big lest your brain matter turn to goop. You want to throw yourself into new environments often.

Work somewhere new today. Go on an adventure tomorrow. Meet someone new next week.

Stave off dementia and introduce Mr Random into your life.

Eat clean so you become clean.

This is the one that will make many of you scowl. ‘But I was just eyeing that Twinkie on the kitchen counter, Alex.’

I get it. But if you want to know who you really are, little comes close to what you put into your body.

Eat (and drink) shit, and the shittest part of your personality will be on show for all to see. What if you were unreasonably dedicated to eating clean?

Wouldn’t that be easier if you knew you’d finally be your strongest, happiest, most energised self?

Stop reacting and worry less.

Worry is a woeful misuse of the imagination.

We worry, but our thoughts were never intended for this. Sure, temporarily judge things as bad—that’s survival. But once the threat has been identified, you need to either take a breath and get back to sleep or take action. Focus on what’s in your control.

Stop debilitating yourself by immersing yourself in awful, frightening thoughts. This is a waste of life.

Create more (perhaps even maniacally)

Humans, as I always say, were born to create.

The ability to envision a future and act on our plans creatively is literally what separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom.

To create is to be human. To sit idly picking your nose to Friends reruns is to deny your humanity. If you’re feeling mopey, create.

Then, create more. The more you create, the more creative (and yourSELF) you become. Create something today.

Go on long reflective walks.

Chad Thundercock has been telling you to hit the gym weights for weeks, yet you still haven’t been.

Okay, forget pumping iron in a cold, artificially-lit room.

Go on a walk and draw it out. Walking without headphones in nature signals to your brain that you’re putting rushing on hold for a moment. Let your body relax into the flow of it so you merge with your surroundings.

Nature has a way of opening up the parts we usually keep closed because we’re not in the right environment.

Let go of everything that drains your energy.

Society loves telling you that happiness will arrive when certain conditions are met.

So you keep accumulating shite and then wonder why you’re still miserable.

Finding yourself is more a process of letting go than adding anything unnecessary.

Be intentional about this. Drop anything that drains you. Learn more about minimalism. Cut the bills for things you don’t use. Throw out everything that isn’t absolutely adding value to your life. It’s hugely relieving.

Be different and focus on experiences over material items. 

This is to be on a journey taking you closer to you.

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