Untethered Mind

Untethered Mind

The eight habits of the most chill people I know

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Alex Mathers
Apr 29, 2026
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I have to admit, I’ve spent a pretty sizeable chunk of my life worrying about stuff I could have left alone.

I’ve learned much over the years about the most relaxed people I know.

I combined my fascination for human behaviour and my curiosity for living a calmer, more relaxed life,

If I had to distil it into a list…

1. Own their insecurities.

There’s no better way to develop unnecessary anxiety than by succumbing to the false idea that you have ‘insecurities’ that need hiding.

If we believe the idea that something’s ‘wrong’ with us, this is judgemental. This puts us under a lot of pressure — the exact opposite of calm.

Calm people accept their limitations, work on the things they can change and let go of the idea that there’s anything wrong.

Yes — it really is a case of letting go and developing the healthy habit of not continually berating ourselves for not being who we think we ‘should’ be.

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