The nine simple habits of ridiculously determined people
When you ask most people who accomplished incredible things what made the most significant contribution, you’ll find a common answer:
Determination.
No one is determined all the time. We all suffer setbacks and moments of doubt. But we can nurture a determined spirit that carries us over the long term.
These are the habits shared by the most determined people:
1. Honour their commitments.
Commitments drive their lives, as does the need to follow through with what they said they would do.
They create commitments and do whatever it takes to fulfil these contracts and live with integrity.
They hire coaches to help maximise their support and accountability with commitments if they can.
2. Write their goals down.
The practice of physically writing goals down daily is a secret of the determined.
They know that the act of putting exciting targets down is invigorating and foundational to living one’s purpose.
Purpose is not lived tomorrow.
It is created today.
Writing sets this reality in motion, and keeps it moving.
Michael Neill described the power of goals in a way I loved: ‘creating goals help you fall more deeply in love with life.’
3. Prioritise the ‘non-negotiables.’
Many people burn out or quit because they neglect their need to maintain high energy levels.
We can become so focused on a target that we fail to care for what we need the most: our energised selves.
Determined people identify the essential habits they can’t go without. This might be a daily walk, reading for an hour, or meditation.
And they come FIRST.
Time is carved out on the calendar for non-negotiables before everything else. Your clients, your career - even your family - CAN NOT take precedence over your energy.
Do this, and you’ll have trouble putting your fire out.
4. Enjoyment-bias.
Find a way to enjoy things. It’s not about thinking positive - it’s about acting with less of the burden of negative thoughts that hold us back.
We gain an unfair advantage when we become intolerant of doubtful thoughts and instead turn to the present.
Those who can find a way to enjoy even the most menial of tasks have the advantage.
Confucius encapsulated the idea well:
‘Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart.’
If you have the final say on whether you’ll enjoy something or not, you can’t lose.
5. Practice self-compassion.
Many of us feel continually burned out, wanting to curl up on the sofa every day by 3pm.
They wonder why they lack energy and never look to how they regard themselves in their heads.
They constantly beat themselves up and call themselves horrible names.
They are imposing their own limits, and this is felt physically.
Create space for compassion.
Forgive yourself.
Let go of the need to continually berate, and - like a sick stray dog you picked up from the street - you can bring yourself back to fighting strength.
6. Move before they feel ready.
Most people wait for motivation to strike, like lightning from a clear sky. The determined have figured out that motivation follows action, and almost never the other way around.
They start ugly. They show up confused. They do a terrible first attempt and come back the next day slightly less terrible.
There’s a reason determined people always seem to be ahead. They didn’t wait for permission or certainty or the right moment. They started while everyone else was still “thinking about it.”
Mel Robbins put it well: ‘You’re never going to feel like it.’
The gap between wanting something and doing something about it is measured in seconds. Determined people close that gap before their brain has time to talk them out of it.
7. Take note of their wins.
The advantage a determined person creates over the average Joe is measured in inches.
Writing down your wins at the end of the day or noting them in your mind before sleep will make an exponential difference over months and years.
You need to be the most fired up coach for yourself.
You’re not ‘above’ championing yourself - especially when everyone is preoccupied with themselves.
8. Make space for the quiet voice of inner wisdom.
There’s one thing that separates those energised for a day after a motivational talk by a guru and those who keep going and producing year after year.
What’s that? They cultivate a connection to their inner wisdom.
It’s there, and you can access it when you still the mind. Stuck people continually ruminate.
Free people let go and allow insight to come to them without effort.
9. Continually simplify.
I have spoken before about how specialisation isn’t always the answer - and that to immerse yourself in several skills is beneficial.
However, there’s a fine line between doing what’s right and taking on too much.
We can complicate our lives.
The determined are such because they prioritise clear goals and execute on the do-able.
You might dream the impossible - but we certainly can’t DO the impossible.
So make it easy for yourself. Reduce any unnecessary friction.
Take the next small step.
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