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Shaun Roney's avatar

“Don’t expect anyone to make the first move. Never wait. Go out and create what you want, even if it feels a little icky.”

Oof, #7 spoke to me. Woke up this morning energetically feeling like an actress waiting to be discovered. Shifting this energy to an orator who’s the invited guest. I have a book and a world tour in me. Creation mode activated. Thank you so much, and happy 40th!

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Alex Mathers's avatar

love that! Let's go! And thank you Shaun

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Robin Moyle's avatar

AMAZING!!!! So much wisdom and JOY here! Thank you!!! Will be sinking into this for a while and sharing with my 18 and 20 year old daughters. Loved every bit and in this moment “distinguishing between instinctual and critical voice” really stands out… but there are so many treasures here! Happy happy birthday!!!

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Thanks Robin! Feel free to share 😄

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Ain Sufina's avatar

Im restacking this! Thank you Mr Alex Mathers, from Malaysia🇲🇾

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Alex Mathers's avatar

glad you enjoyed!

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Cheryl O Art's avatar

This is an amazing and potentially impactful list! I love it. You figured this out at 40? I am still trying to get my head around some of these things at 70. :)

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thanks!

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Tarek Taha's avatar

Sounds like a great time to not care and just go for it!

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Alex Mathers's avatar

yes!

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Cheryl O Art's avatar

For sure!

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Elizabeth Grace Martinez's avatar

I'm 42 over here, I wish I had done lists like this at each decade to look back and see if I still agreed.

Regarding #34 - I just wrote a poem today about how it's good to be an outsider. I think I'm finally accepting that one.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

never too late to start, and it doesn't need to be on your birthday! Thanks Elizabeth, here's to being an outsider.

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Issa A.'s avatar

They all spoke to me!!

I'm curious: What would be your one sentence to sum-up how to live a happy, fulfilled life?

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Alex Mathers's avatar

yes! You have all the happiness you need in this moment. You don't need anything to be happy.

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Issa A.'s avatar

Thank you, Alex.

So, Contentment is the secret to happiness. This confirms my intuition to leave the city, live closer to nature, further from consumerism. 🙏

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Cristian Nistor's avatar

Amazing lessons!

A pleasure to go through all of them.

I saved a few. Hope to apply them asap.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thank you sir!

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Nai'a NEWLIGHT's avatar

"Advance into the chaos." Wow; just, WOW!

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Alex Mathers's avatar

yess

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Derek Lakin's avatar

Thanks, Alex, and congrats on 40 years! I especially resonated with #33 (get-tos  vs. have-tos), and seeing the gift in every setback.

As someone who’s also squarely middle-aged, what would you say is your most important perspective when you wake up each morning?

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thank you Derek!

For me it's realising you don't need a perspective each morning. Just be happy you're alive! You'll be automatically creative from that point on.

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Xhoni (alias Joachim) Lindenau's avatar

Thank you Alex, excellent!

Namasté, Joe-Kwame

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thank you!

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CharlesWinston's avatar

Happy 40th mate!

Thank you for this post

Many interesting things to ponder

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thanks mate! Appreciate it.

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Rasmus's avatar

Thank you for the tips Alex, and happy birthday!

I really resonated with 27 and 37.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Great! Thanks Rasmus

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Charles Holden's avatar

Happy birthday!!

Lots of great points.

Thank you!

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thanks a lot Charles!

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Susan Harley's avatar

You are amazing, so much wisdom at 40, congratulations. Much to celebrate 🥳 in how you have created your dream life.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thank you Susan! it's appreciated :)

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Lisa Brown's avatar

Sage advice ☺️🐝

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thanks Lisa :)

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Hege Kristoffersen's avatar

Happy Birthday Alex! 🥳

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Thanks Hege :)

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