People who don't fear being alone think like this:

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I spend a lot of my time alone.

I'm a pretty committed introvert, but that doesn't mean I don't like other people. I love people, but I have a short time limit for spending time with most of them. More so because I love being alone.

I have felt lonely in the past, but today, when I'm alone, I rarely feel lonely.

I am writing this from a beach house in northern Estonia, where I have been alone for five days.

The fear of being alone, however - either now or in the future - just doesn't cross my mind.

I've come across many who have expressed this fear to me.

They worry they won't find someone. They dislike spending too much time by themselves. They say they feel insecure when seen alone.

Whether you find a partner or a friend (or not), how you use your mind determines how well you can handle your reality.

To find harmony in aloneness, here are some mind perspectives that have helped me:

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Being lonely and being alone are not the same things.

You can be in a crowded room and feel lonely because of the thoughts you entertain in that moment. You can also be alone and wish this time wouldn't end.

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If you are content with being alone, you will be happy alone.

(Read that one again)

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Some of the world's coolest people spend most of their time alone and living a single life. Even if that's not for you, there is space for reassessing your opinion of single people.

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Just because society says you should spend a lot of time with other people doesn't mean you can't enjoy your time by yourself.

You create your happiness. Society does not call the shots — it's too busy ensuring most people stay dumb, scared, sick and tired.

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If you think it's a problem that you are alone, you are living life according to a belief that will make you depressed whenever you are alone.

A thought dictates your joy (or lack thereof). Your opportunity now is to challenge such thinking.

What are some reasons you can think of that confirm why being alone is actually a good thing for you?

Finding evidence to support the opposite of the beliefs that keep you stuck will free you like a dishevelled bird from a rusty cage.

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It is far better to be alone living for yourself than to have company living for others.

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Some of the most profound inventions, artistic expressions, and creative innovations happened thanks to solitude.

When we are alone, we are free of the distraction of interpersonal drama and noise, and we open up channels that allow for more of this kind of work.

If you are creative, then your creativity needs solitude.

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If you can happily spend time alone, it says you are comfortable in your own company.

If you can't spend time with yourself, see this as an opportunity to confront and gradually accept the ugliest thoughts you have about your perceived self.

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If you are alone and you sense others are judging you for this (which is rare), see this as a projection of their own insecurities.

No one who is truly at peace with themselves has any need to criticise someone else.

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Look around you. Most people cling to other people.

They rarely go anywhere without someone next to them.

Is this you? Are you so needy for the company of others that you can't function by yourself?

Or can you take pleasure in the simplicity of a slow and present life, whether you share it with others or go it alone?

To choose the solo path is to choose strength, self-belief, and self-reliance.

Act like it.

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