This is excellent! 👏👏👏 To the point! 👍 I’ve been thinking the same thing…so I decided on embracing the “perfectly imperfect” concept in life…only reading to learn new things, following only pieces of advice that make life better and easier…keeping it simple, all in moderation…
And yes, you can make your own happiness every day at any moment…and you can just decide to feel happy, because it’s a state of mind that has less to do to with whatever is happening in your life, than you think and it’s not something that only exists in the future when you achieve it or find it…
P.S. Reading fiction is a good counter-balance and actually makes you feel happy when you finish the book…
LOVE your note on guru dependency. The search for external validation is heavy. I've been there, many times. Not seeking an answer, but validation, and never realizing that I had the answer all along. Trust in ourselves is one of the greatest things we can develop.
This is a great list. I find that I already practice most of these items. Of course, I'm rather a fan of gathering knowledge with no assurance that I'll ever need it; as a writer, I'm aware that it might come up in the future, and I have often been grateful for information that I never thought I'd need! Still, I'm content with and grateful for what I have, always with the awareness that there is more available, but no pressure to attain it just because it's there. As you said, it's all a choice.
My partner always says that his ultimate goal is not to be "happy," because that implies that there is a corresponding "unhappiness" at some point. His goal is to be "OK," avoiding the extremes; the middle of the bell curve is a good place to be. I generally strive for slightly more than that--the point on the bell curve where it's still high, maybe starting to decline but before it really plunges, though that range is much more difficult to hit. With Steve, I have found the range on the chart that I aim for, and with me, so has he. We balance each other's needs and wishes quite well, and that helps us both be at the peak of contentment.
Over the past 20 years, I saw so many musicians stall
Their careers because they became perfectionists with the music they wanted to put out. They became self saboteurs
yes same in many crafts!
This is excellent! 👏👏👏 To the point! 👍 I’ve been thinking the same thing…so I decided on embracing the “perfectly imperfect” concept in life…only reading to learn new things, following only pieces of advice that make life better and easier…keeping it simple, all in moderation…
And yes, you can make your own happiness every day at any moment…and you can just decide to feel happy, because it’s a state of mind that has less to do to with whatever is happening in your life, than you think and it’s not something that only exists in the future when you achieve it or find it…
P.S. Reading fiction is a good counter-balance and actually makes you feel happy when you finish the book…
thank you! exactly
LOVE your note on guru dependency. The search for external validation is heavy. I've been there, many times. Not seeking an answer, but validation, and never realizing that I had the answer all along. Trust in ourselves is one of the greatest things we can develop.
Definitely overlooked Landon!
This is a great list. I find that I already practice most of these items. Of course, I'm rather a fan of gathering knowledge with no assurance that I'll ever need it; as a writer, I'm aware that it might come up in the future, and I have often been grateful for information that I never thought I'd need! Still, I'm content with and grateful for what I have, always with the awareness that there is more available, but no pressure to attain it just because it's there. As you said, it's all a choice.
My partner always says that his ultimate goal is not to be "happy," because that implies that there is a corresponding "unhappiness" at some point. His goal is to be "OK," avoiding the extremes; the middle of the bell curve is a good place to be. I generally strive for slightly more than that--the point on the bell curve where it's still high, maybe starting to decline but before it really plunges, though that range is much more difficult to hit. With Steve, I have found the range on the chart that I aim for, and with me, so has he. We balance each other's needs and wishes quite well, and that helps us both be at the peak of contentment.
Thank you for your content. It's helpful!
thank you Wendy! Your insights are appreciated. Alex
"What if you didn't need fixing?" Yes.
This was literally writter for me.
Damn, this good 👍