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Lee Drozak's avatar

"They end conversations at their peak." This is my favorite tactic and over the holidays I had two people comment that they love that when the conversation needs to end, I end it. No last words here.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

I'm with ya Lee! You know, I was just talking to a friend and the cool thing was...

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Miss Gold's avatar

Leave at the peak of the convo... I've been doing this my whole life. Exit stage left. ✌️

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Xhoni (alias Joachim) Lindenau's avatar

Again, Emotion-Management is the Key-Element. Smile unpretentiously and unexpectedly.

Giving way to vulnerability, inviting outside world possibly nearing your karma. You may still move away from possible touch - take yourself out of scope for others, while still raying a feel of empathy. Mysterious being in its nest... Namasté, Joe-Kwame

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Well said!

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Dave Puckett's avatar

"They end conversations at their peak when everyone’s still energized."

I unintentionally did this one time, and yes it felt like they wanted me to stay and add more to their conversation. I also got the feeling my words were more powerful than others; it felt good.

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S.L. Morrison's avatar

Dead-on good advice! Well done.

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Joao Lucena's avatar

Dude, love the writing. Very clear.

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Bhavana Sarin's avatar

Intriguing analysis of behavior patterns. And you're right, they are gamechangers.

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maya's avatar

i love when people put into words things i’ve been thinking/noticing for a while. very good read

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Chase's avatar

Most will buy you a trip to HR if these are done at work.

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Leo in L.A.'s avatar

Letting awkward moments be awkward… It became easier when I led from a center of agency and authenticity. In a way it's like giving them the responsibility of the awkwardness. 😊

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Mark Canada, Ph.D.'s avatar

Thank you for this useful essay. On the topic of being comfortable with being wrong…

https://open.substack.com/pub/mindinclined/p/lessons-in-humility-from-jefferson?r=44ohic&utm_medium=ios

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Mike H's avatar

Confidence, empathy not wimpy find your balance. Be assertive not bossy, don’t tell people what to do no one likes it. Don’t be the smartest guy in the room even if you are, listen don’t critique! Observe, listen, engage, leave them hanging not too abruptly but maybe as teaser for a later conversation. Pick up lines are dead for any worthwhile future relationship. Just my observation through the years this isn’t new stuff its worked for years in my opinion ymmv. Lol

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