It took the first 20 years of my life and overly critical parents and family to get there. Initially it wasn’t “genuine comfort” it was “don’t give a damn what you think about me” rebellion. Guess I just couldn’t buy that I was doing EVERYTHING wrong. Doing life my way and living and learning through the failures and victories created my very own self confidence.
"A twenty-minute walk in the cold air will do more for your self-image than a week of positive affirmations." That's exactly what I did today, and my mood instantly lit up!
All of this is very true. This is coming from a person who believes we know very little and the more we know the more we realize we don't know. We grow in self acceptance by valuing ourselves. When we act to meet a need of ours we are saying our need is important, therefore, we important. A need is also to care for others, but not to the point we hurt ourselves. Self sacrifice is a virtue when we have the bandwidth, and often we do. When we don't and hurt ourselves, we self sabotage and work against ourselves. Very nice post
Learning to like yourself is such a strength that a lot of people are absolutely not prepared to do because to get there you have to see the parts of you that need work.
And being able to work on them requires you accept yourself for your imperfections that make you human.
When we stop looking to be perfect and rather just strive to be human, the release of pressure itself gives us the capacity to be better than we ever imagined 👏🏼
I am exactly twenty years old, and I’ve realized that reading about experiences passed down from others and reflecting on their advice has a significant impact on building my identity. That’s why I don’t believe it’s a mere coincidence that I found this app right when I needed it. Every decision I’ve made so far has brought me to this point. Currently, I am both reading your writings and trying my best to convey my own thoughts. Who knows, perhaps we will cross paths again. It was a pleasure meeting you.
It took the first 20 years of my life and overly critical parents and family to get there. Initially it wasn’t “genuine comfort” it was “don’t give a damn what you think about me” rebellion. Guess I just couldn’t buy that I was doing EVERYTHING wrong. Doing life my way and living and learning through the failures and victories created my very own self confidence.
it took me a while too
"A twenty-minute walk in the cold air will do more for your self-image than a week of positive affirmations." That's exactly what I did today, and my mood instantly lit up!
yesss - me too!
All of this is very true. This is coming from a person who believes we know very little and the more we know the more we realize we don't know. We grow in self acceptance by valuing ourselves. When we act to meet a need of ours we are saying our need is important, therefore, we important. A need is also to care for others, but not to the point we hurt ourselves. Self sacrifice is a virtue when we have the bandwidth, and often we do. When we don't and hurt ourselves, we self sabotage and work against ourselves. Very nice post
thank you!
I particularly love 13. You can do it all but unless you stop treating everything as an optimisation ticklist then everything feels hollow.
yess!
Excellent!
thanks Debra!
Self love leads to loving eberything around you. Accepting self leads to accepting others. Round and round as you say.
agreed
A good reminder, thank you!
you got it!
"Creating puts you in a position of agency rather than consumption. It has you contributing."
This is nothing but the fact. Nothing builds confidence. It builds self-esteem. It stirs you away from a position of lack to a position of abundance.
thanks man :)
I took away something from every single tip you wrote about!! Especially the one about not replying to texts instantly, you caught me there with that!
Learning to like yourself is such a strength that a lot of people are absolutely not prepared to do because to get there you have to see the parts of you that need work.
And being able to work on them requires you accept yourself for your imperfections that make you human.
When we stop looking to be perfect and rather just strive to be human, the release of pressure itself gives us the capacity to be better than we ever imagined 👏🏼
I love ittt, can you write a part two with some niche and small habits that we rarely think of but they are a true sign of self love and confidence?
I must be pretty happy with who I am. It took me a long time to get here though. Practice, practice, practice.
I am exactly twenty years old, and I’ve realized that reading about experiences passed down from others and reflecting on their advice has a significant impact on building my identity. That’s why I don’t believe it’s a mere coincidence that I found this app right when I needed it. Every decision I’ve made so far has brought me to this point. Currently, I am both reading your writings and trying my best to convey my own thoughts. Who knows, perhaps we will cross paths again. It was a pleasure meeting you.