The best creators are the least afraid of rejection.
It’s not a personality thing.
It’s a muscle you build.
If you want to blow people’s minds with your content, learn how to detach yourself from this fear.
How?
Here’s how:
1) Focus on quantity.
Putting effort into your work is good.
But too many of us use perfection to avoid doing the work or publishing it in the first place.
What did I learn to overcome this fear of making mistakes?
Creating more.
If you’re on a mission, doing the work that makes you come alive, quantity should come easily.
And it will when you realise that quantity takes the pressure attached to shipping any one thing.
2) Find your cause.
I’d say less than 1% of people know their cause.
What are you fighting?
What bullshit do you see in society, in others, in yourself?
Call that shit out, and bring it into your life mission.
Finding this is how I begin all my training and coaching — it’s fundamental.
Because when we have an enemy to fight, our dragon awakens, and we become ten times as effective in the world.
Fear becomes an afterthought.
3) Absorb the reality that people cannot influence your self-worth.
‘Self-esteem’ is an illusion.
It’s made up.
So is ‘self-worth.’
Do you see that?
It’s an idea — a thought.
As such, no one in the history of mankind has ever had the power to lower someone else’s self-esteem.
You are indestructible this way.
Be kind, but don’t limit yourself to avoid a harsh word from someone — they can’t hurt you.
4) Practice hard.
I used to think I didn’t have the personality to be good at public speaking.
Then I spoke publicly hundreds of times.
People then started telling me I was a talented public speaker. I had to laugh.
I became good because I practised.
Practice increases our skill while diminishing fear. Repeat what you fear, even if it hurts to start.
This is how to become fearless.
5) Take small risks.
Risks are not reckless unless you’re reckless.
Risk invites opportunity.
Risk is also tied to fear, for good reason — it points to the thing worth doing.
Get into the habit of considered risk-taking.
Start small.
Reveal something about you in an article. Send a voice note.
Start to see, feel and taste the connection between risk-taking and opportunity. It’s highly correlated.
Absorb these habits and bring them into your day.
The world needs this from you.
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What you noted about writers is also basically true for "inventors", product designers & builders, however in physical products, you do need to aim for quality, usability & safety to have that work accepted in the marketplace.
Love this post. Rejection can definitely mean a long and lonely creative journey, but it’s definitely better than not asking or creating at all. Thanks for articulating all of this.