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Suzanne Arjona's avatar

I love this! I often tell my clients that while they may not be able to do it all, they can do a lot… just not all at once. Just choose. If you change your mind later, great. Choose something else!

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Great way to see things!

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Jason Gorway's avatar

The inability to make decisions and risk failure was a huge barrier to my sense of wellbeing. Practicing making hundreds of tiny choices and looking for the gems in all activities, is as important as pruning the distractions that rob me of my passion to flourish and prosper, and letting go of ‘what if’s’. Timely message, Alex!

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Appreciate you Jason!

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Paolo Peralta's avatar

So true. It’s so effective to just choose and go, even if it’s not the right one, it will lead us to the right one faster. ❤️

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Thank you sir

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Luis's avatar

Very interesting this point of view. That's what I should read. Thanks 👍

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Alex Mathers's avatar

thanks Luis

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Xhoni (alias Joachim) Lindenau's avatar

Alex/Joe-Kwame,

you are pointing to a contemporary Key-Rampant Vice. Disembarking from our Actual Needs and requirements which make our existence flourishing. In rather any market and product we are floating in a sea of abundance.

Quoting your "Because real abundance is found in less, not more."...

In an initiative to grease trading, the exchange of goods mankind devised "Money" (derivate), as a trading tool. It was 6th Millenium b. Chr., when barter trade was invented. Coins were marketed 600 b. Chr. and Paper-Money came up 350 years ago. Next step max. limits for cash payments which will lead to Abolishment of Cash, establishing a 100% Transparence of global derivate-traffic.

Availability of money bolstered a trend of Human Detraction from their Real Needs. The reduction of multiplexed goods without Need, lead to a fundamental overload. Squeezing out and elimination lead to Superpower Happy Few and Disabled Masses, who apart from poverty look into personal depression. The Good Will, Positiveness and Aware Consciousness is suppressed. A large majority of beings has been manipulated over generations in a strategic plan to deprive them from self-decided, non-steered decision taking.

It is a Key Challenge to redeem Humanity and have them retrospectively (for navigation and understanding) understand a dreadful Status. This is what Spirituality and Wisdom is there for.

The scattered and disoriented Human Existence requires a Navigation Back to its roots.

Joe-Kwame

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Shannon Snow White's avatar

Hi Alex, long time no read, but I made the ‘choice’ to read your writing today! I don’t want choices to paralyze me, so I continue to sharpen up my senses to make decisive decisions on choices. Asking myself what’s the worst that can happen. Glad I made the choice to stop and read today your writing. Thank you! Keep it up! ~Shannon

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Alex Mathers's avatar

You made the right choice Shannon!

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Tara's avatar

“If you’re saying yes to one thing, you’re saying no to more “- that is exactly what I needed to hear. Feels like a weight lifted and energy rising just reading that..it’s like I crave minimalism and simplicity more than anything in this modern age.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Most, if not all of us crave simplicity, because it's closer to nature, which is what we really crave.

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Victoria Fann's avatar

Thanks for shining a light on this issue. What I've found is that the overwhelm of choice occurs when you're only relying your intellect to make the decision. When you listen to your intuition, the choice becomes much easier because you're pausing long enough to tune into the energy of the choice and reading the field to see what's in alignment on a soul level, rather than just your personality. This has proven itself to me over and over. Intuition is our internal guidance system, which is always available to help us make a good choice or reroute us when we've made a poor one.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Intuition is underrated!

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Teyani Whitman's avatar

Thank you Alex. This essay rings true in so many ways. Clever marketing to “make us look” and hook us into imagining that we want something is exhausting.

I don’t think that it is necessary to live like monks in order to reclaim our minds. Making a choice once has been what has helped me cut out endless static. In most cases, I have already discovered what suits me, and what I enjoy the most, to the degree that I’ve released any need to reaffirm my choice every week. A bazillion new alternatives totally floods my brain space. Simplifying surely quells the exhaustion.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Yes, requires continual awareness and presence.

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Rose Tyler's avatar

That bulleted list of things we have to choose from is so real I don’t even recognize how much choice is embedded in each of them. Choosing what to prioritize amid so many choices is, in itself, a choice!

I love this minimalist approach. It’s how I’m approaching more and more things in life. Cut out the unnecessary, make room for the important.

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Alex Mathers's avatar

Haha so true, and good for you Rose!

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Colin MacRae's avatar

“In the day to day trenches of adult life, there is actually no such thing as atheism. There is no such thing as not worshiping. Everybody worships. The only choice we get is what to worship. And the compelling reason for maybe choosing some sort of god or spiritual-type thing to worship- be it JC, or Allah; be it YHWH or the Wiccan Mother Goddess, or the Four Noble Truths, or some set of inviolable set of ethical principles- is that pretty much anything else you worship will eat you alive. If you worship money and things, if they are where you tap real meaning in life, then you will never have enough, never feel you have enough. Worship your body and beauty and sexual allure and you will always feel ugly. And when time and age start showing, you will die a million deaths before they grieve you. Worship power, and you will feel weak and afraid, and you will need ever more power over others to keep the fear at bay. On one level, we know this stuff already. It’s been codified as myths, proverbs, cliches, epigrams, parables; the skeleton of every great story. The whole trick is keeping the truth up front in daily consciousness.”                                                                                                     David Foster Wallace

“ Society  tells us we never have enough: We aren’t good enough. We aren’t safe enough. We are not enough. We are not certain enough. We are not perfect enough. We are not extraordinary enough. An ordinary life has become synonymous with a meaningless life. So we are on a quest for the extraordinary. We chase after extraordinary experiences, extraordinary states of being (I want to become enlightened!) and we purchase material goods that we don’t need, not realizing that it is in our ordinary lives that meaning, joy and beauty are to be found.” Brene Brown

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Alex Mathers's avatar

well said

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Alex Mathers's avatar

You got it 👌🏼

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