Why you’re likely sabotaging what you want

There’s only one reason. And here’s how to unshackle yourself.

Ever wondered why you seem to keep hitting bottlenecks when trying to get what you want?

In money.

In health.

In relationships.

Even in passions and hobbies?

Humans are fascinating creatures. We do things that go completely against what we know is good for us just because of how we feel.

What do I mean by this?

Let’s say you want a promotion at work. But the discomfort of being denied a promotion strikes you as worse than the pain of staying where you are.

People stay stuck like this all the time.

This is a form of self-sabotage.

And it’s rooted in your feelings.

You are scared of a feeling.

Don’t worry. We’re all like this. That’s the power of emotional discomfort.

But some of us are better at handling these feelings than others.

It all depends on how we interpret what our emotions mean.

Therein lies the solution.

There will always be discomfort.

It’s just that some of us view certain types of emotional discomfort as unacceptable.

And it connects to one thing:

Your fear of the feeling of being rejected.

Those who cannot tolerate certain emotions and actively avoid them view rejection far worse than others.

Why?

Because they believe that love is externally sourced.

(Misbelief of the century — more on this in a second).

Rejection is inevitable.

And the discomfort from it is inevitable.

But people need to be exposed to potential rejection in order to win.

So, regardless of the wounds of your past, how do you move toward caring less about the ickiness of rejection (the actual game-changer in all things)?

You get intimate with the idea that all the love you need can be sourced internally.

Why would you be bothered by what others thought or said if you weren’t relying on any external validation?

How would you behave around others differently?

How might your actions in all areas be different?

Exactly.

Imagine your life like this.

Living this is the secret.

That’s the solution to all forms of self-sabotage.

No longer needing external validation.

Because a sense of pure confidence and self-love needn’t come from others.

But you look for it there.

No need.

It’s in you.

TLDR: You sabotage your success because you fear the feeling of rejection, which is remedied by realising all the love and admiration you need comes from within you.

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