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The point about NO hit home. I'm also wondering- how can we say NO in a way that is less hurtful to others?

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I will do a post on this, but I'd say be as honest as you can even if it stings a little. Lies will catch up with you.

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Hmm..OK. I am doing a post on what the other person goes through when they hear a NO. I think we also need to acknowledge that a NO can hurt. It is important to normalize the hurt especially when we talk about male entitlement etc in Asian countries.

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not sure what you mean by 'normalizing the hurt.'

I don't think we should suppress truth just because it hurts someone's feelings.

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That doesn't mean someone does not hurt when they hear a no. And why not normalise that hurt? Acknowledging the hurt is also about normalising. Just because I know your'e allowed to say NO doesn't mean I am not allowed to feel bad about hearing it,

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Bloody yes. Alex, through you I’m finally “growing a pair “. Thanks xxxx.

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Alex I’m using every single one of your resources atm. It’s helping. Thank you. My situation is critical atm and if I get through it , it will be partly due to you. ❤️. Linda.

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thanks! All the best

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May 15, 2023Liked by Alex Mathers

This is such a good post. It’s filled with nuggets of wisdom that really resonate with me, genius stuff. Thank you.

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Hey Jon, really appreciate the support, Alex

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May 15, 2023Liked by Alex Mathers

💬 (#3) Yes, learning from others who’ve made mistakes is helpful, but after a point, you need to...

...start making your own 😇

Dr Jessica Rose, a decorated covid wars heroine, helpfully instructs on further course ↓↓

🗨 You know what happens when you persist? The answer is: you might succeed.

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well said Daiva

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Thanks for all this wisdom! I’m definitely working on the ‘being okay with not feeling’. Not being okay with feeling shitty has definitely led to a ton of poor decisions during my short time on this planet!

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you got it Sam - it's an art

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