“It is to feel your judgments about what you need to be happy.”
I felt such judgments tonight and - having read your article a few times, earlier today - was quickly able to separate myself from the judgments that were saying “something is missing. In fact, there was nothing missing. There was just a judgment that this thing/situation should be other than the way it is. There was a sense of freedom in that moment. This article said something I’ve heard a hundred times in a way that it really sank in. Thank you, Alex.
I love this. I feel better around people and despise myself for this “ defect”. It does seem to be intrinsically built into me and causes me much loneliness. Thank you for such good points.
I just want to ask you though- what about when you really want a hug? Do you suppress/ignore that ache?
Thanks Linda. I personally don't really need hugs and rarely think about it though hugs are nice when they come. That ache will grow the more you think the thought that you are 'less' without a hug or love or friendship or however you define it in your mind. There's never a need to suppress anything, you just return to the present moment.
No worries. The concept becomes easier when one understands that thoughts create feelings. No negative thought - no negative feelings. This lies at the heart of most of what I teach. It's based in Three Principles and Stoic philosophy.
“It is to feel your judgments about what you need to be happy.”
I felt such judgments tonight and - having read your article a few times, earlier today - was quickly able to separate myself from the judgments that were saying “something is missing. In fact, there was nothing missing. There was just a judgment that this thing/situation should be other than the way it is. There was a sense of freedom in that moment. This article said something I’ve heard a hundred times in a way that it really sank in. Thank you, Alex.
happy to help, Patty
I love this. I feel better around people and despise myself for this “ defect”. It does seem to be intrinsically built into me and causes me much loneliness. Thank you for such good points.
I just want to ask you though- what about when you really want a hug? Do you suppress/ignore that ache?
( Asking for friend lol). Thanks Alex. Linda x
Thanks Linda. I personally don't really need hugs and rarely think about it though hugs are nice when they come. That ache will grow the more you think the thought that you are 'less' without a hug or love or friendship or however you define it in your mind. There's never a need to suppress anything, you just return to the present moment.
That’s so kind of you. Although I can’t quite access the concept you describe I will keep reading it and reflecting. Linda.
No worries. The concept becomes easier when one understands that thoughts create feelings. No negative thought - no negative feelings. This lies at the heart of most of what I teach. It's based in Three Principles and Stoic philosophy.
Yes. I did buy your book. I love the three principles. You know what? It’s me. I’m being lazy and defeatist. Xxx. Linda.
Thank you. I needed that.
you're welcome Paul