You always have wise advise. All of this is great advise but I had not heard the wisest thing before. I imagine I will have to quote you when I finally get my book done! "Speak from your scars not your wounds." I love that advise and see far too many oozing the wounds to make their points. Thank you!
"Speak because you have something to say, not because you need to be heard." This is something I'm currently trying to mindfully balance. The ego wants to be heard.
I used to speak from the pain of my childhood, but now with therapy I can leave those wounds firmly in the past and even grow up as a person for having experienced them.
My parents were great models of what not to do. I just did the opposite of what they did and now have been married 50 years with two great "kids" (48 & 45).
As an employment law attorney representing employees, hearing the stories about terminations and deciphering what went wrong, yes, this bit of advice is spot on.
Employees I see often fall into one of the two categories:
1. Those who are on broadcast and have to be right at all times, impose their opinions, talk and talk more, talk louder and ultimately no one listens.
2. Those who timidly sit back, say little, aren’t listened to because they apologize before they even speak, miss the subtleties of workplace dynamics and are bulldozed over by co-workers and employers.
Both types of “former employees”end up in my office after being fired.
Neither have any idea what hit them.
My goal is to write about how not to end up being in either category.
You always have wise advise. All of this is great advise but I had not heard the wisest thing before. I imagine I will have to quote you when I finally get my book done! "Speak from your scars not your wounds." I love that advise and see far too many oozing the wounds to make their points. Thank you!
thanks for the support Penni!
"Speak because you have something to say, not because you need to be heard." This is something I'm currently trying to mindfully balance. The ego wants to be heard.
it sure does!
I used to speak from the pain of my childhood, but now with therapy I can leave those wounds firmly in the past and even grow up as a person for having experienced them.
My parents were great models of what not to do. I just did the opposite of what they did and now have been married 50 years with two great "kids" (48 & 45).
Excellent article.
awesome! Good for you
As an employment law attorney representing employees, hearing the stories about terminations and deciphering what went wrong, yes, this bit of advice is spot on.
Employees I see often fall into one of the two categories:
1. Those who are on broadcast and have to be right at all times, impose their opinions, talk and talk more, talk louder and ultimately no one listens.
2. Those who timidly sit back, say little, aren’t listened to because they apologize before they even speak, miss the subtleties of workplace dynamics and are bulldozed over by co-workers and employers.
Both types of “former employees”end up in my office after being fired.
Neither have any idea what hit them.
My goal is to write about how not to end up being in either category.
I feel both speaking from burning wounds and scars is important. People need the outlet during the process, to quieten that would be harmful I think.